God’s grace is freely given, who we are as faithful followers of Christ are the result of the work God does in us. We are His workmanship.

My most humbling discovery was to come to know that I have nothing to do with how I obtain faith. Faith is a gift that is freely given to us. We often speak of growing our faith… actually faith grows us!

Henri Whitfield

pexels-photo-257360.jpegMy journey of faith is a unique story of how circumstances, good and evil, are working to establish me in faith. Faith reorients our failures, give purpose to our challenges, and humbles us when we are applauded for our victories. It is God’s passport into His presence. As a result of God’s gift of faith, we hear, recognize, and respond to the truth of the gospel. By faith we navigate life. God repeatedly shows us that He is at work in us.  I can’t cultivate my faith but my faith cultivates me.

Pandemics, anarchy, and an alleged Christian Church movement aligned with a worldly political system causes believers and unbelievers to question the validity of faith. However, faith is necessary and it is the means whereby we endure. Faith is freely given to us and it is perfected by the victories and storms we endure in life. My goal is to communicate to the person who questions the authenticity of his/her faith because of seemingly unanswered prayers. Faith is the fabric of life that covers every believer because of the grace of a sovereign Lord.

 “…for by grace have ye, been saved through faith; and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God; not of works, that no man should glory. For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared, that we should walk in them.”[1] (Ephesians 2:8-9)

[1] American Standard Version (Oak Harbor, WA: Logos Research Systems, Inc., 1995), Eph 2:8–10.

Idyllic Beginnings

Each morning it was as if angels attended to each of us as we started our day. The warm rays of the morning sun gently touched our faces with her soothing fingertips. The vibrant flowers, daffodils, sunflowers, and honeysuckle vines ignited our vision, the eclectic sounds of birds chirping, hummingbirds hovering, and the buzz of bumblebees awakened our hearing, and the fresh smells of the morning lured us from our beds.

Henri Whitfield

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“…See how the lilies of the field grow. They do not labor or spin.” (Matthew 6:28)

When I was a child life was full of vivid colors and soothing sounds. These sights and sounds stamped good memories on my heart and mind. The place I remember most from my childhood is Morristown, Tennessee. It is an idyllic town in the hill county of East Tennessee. The epicenter of my existence was 323 Branner Street, my grandmother’s house. Grandmother’s house sat just below the summit of a steep hill. The fields cascading down from the crest of the hill ignited in the spring with, deep yellow sunflowers, vibrant blue wildflowers, pink, yellow, and orange dandelions. Each flower yawned and basked in the warmth of the sun like small birds waiting to be fed. On windy days the tall grass would bend gently with each gentle breeze.

In the back of the house was a garden and beside the garden was a  trail that was bordered by unpainted wooden fences that stretched across grandmother’s back yard creating a safe barrier from the sloping hill that led down to wild blackberry trails and untamed woods. Each year in the spring, the fence would become entwined with emerald green vines from which violet, white, and pink honeysuckles budded and bloomed throughout the season. The honeysuckle vines were most memorable because their sent started and ended each day. Mornings were glorious times there atop Branner Street.

Each morning it was as if angels attended to each of us as we started our day. The warm rays of the morning sun gently touched our faces with her soothing fingertips. The symphonic sounds of the season were perfectly orchestrated. Birds chirping, the wings of hummingbirds hovering over the honeysuckle vines, and the buzz of bumblebees flying from flower to flower. The garden and the fields seemed to be in perpetual motions as the moths, butterflies, beetles, and other colorful insects moved about amongst the plants and flowers.

The only thing that paralleled the beauty of the living colors and the accompanying sounds were the smells. The sweet aromas of jasmine, lilac, honeysuckle, and roses. After lying in bed for a few minutes the scent of nature gave way to the smells of breakfast. The rich aromatic smell of my uncle’s coffee pot, fresh toast, bacon and eggs lured us downstairs for prayer and a time of the family conversation.

After breakfast we all headed out to grandmother’s garden. We planted green beans, corn, and tomatoes. Once we finished the garden and our chores we headed out to play. We spent days hunting for beetles, butterflies, and moths. We sought after chances to hold friendly ladybugs, and when we finished, we lifted them up above our heads watching them fly into the wind. The lilies, dandelions, and other beautiful wildflowers made significant gifts for grandmother, mom and our aunt.

Each day we played until time for dinner, chasing June bugs during the late afternoons and in the evenings.  During the warm summer months our favorite pastime was capturing fireflies in jars. Each night we were fascinated by their illuminating ability to light up a dark room. Each night ended with a prayer and a gentle kiss from mom or grandmother.

Winters were spent indoors near Uncle Robert’s enchanted fireplace, or at grandmother’s gas space heater waiting for hot chocolate, made with powdered chocolate, sugar, and fresh milk. When the snow came it either crept in during the silence of the night or it came as a blistering noisy winter storm. No matter how it happened, the effects were always the same.  It lay a thick, soft blanket of pure white snow over the houses and the meadow. The blemished landscape transformed into a perfect three-dimensional snow globe. The houses turned into warm, cozy lodges. The broken-down “outhouse” became a place of nostalgic beauty. The rusted car hidden behind my uncle’s house became a perfectly remodeled ice mobile. The scrap wood piles, the rugged rocky hillside and everything that was unsightly was transformed into a shimmering pristine paradise. It was smooth, pure white, glistening and reflecting the unblemished light of God. It was a glorious redemptive sight that transformed our existence into a perfect paradise.

However, as the cold temperatures begin to dissipate, the sun raises the temperatures and converts the snow and ice into nutrient-laden water that nourishes the surrounding land and gardens. The surplus of water that comes from the melting snow replenishes  the ponds, streams, and fills the local Mayes Reservoir.

The atmosphere atop that hill on 323 Branner Street was serene. Grandmother’s house was a winter haven, a summertime retreat, and a place our family went to rejuvenate from the exhausting troubles of life. This place, is the place of my beginnings, it was here that I came to know tranquil peace. I learned to appreciate nature…the tall grass, mustard greens, wild blackberries, strawberries, small indigenous animals, insects and the beautiful night sky which seemed within reach on clear nights in any season.

How great is Your goodness, Which You have stored up for those who fear You, Which You have wrought for those who take refuge in You, before the sons of men! You hide them in the secret place of Your presence from the conspiracies of man; You keep them secretly in a shelter from the strife of tongues. Blessed be the LORD, For He has made marvelous His lovingkindness to me.                                                     

                                                                                                                             Psalm 31:19-21

Returning Home

However, I soon realized that we were not bound by Grandmother but by faith which superseded her physical presence. Faith: The fabric of our life,

With Grandmother’s death, the fabric of our family was torn and for a season we drifted apart. However, I soon realized that we were not bound by Grandmother but by faith which superseded her physical presence. Faith: The fabric of our life, is the story of how hope in an ancient, unseen, yet relevant God cultivated my life into a man of God.

Henri Whitfield

Branner Street

My mom had been married for two or three years now and to my surprise we were headed to Morristown, Tennessee right before Christmas. Initially, we had decided not to go to Tennessee for Christmas but a call two days after Christmas changed our plans. Grandmother had died. My mom’s mother was the matriarch of our family and her death was due to the flu. It appears that like so many people the vaccine caused her to become stricken with the flu virus which consequently led to her death.

Grandmother’s death was pivotal for our entire family. Her home was the refuge for my family and for many other individuals. Grandmother often took in borders and students who attended Morristown College. She was benevolent and a lover of people. Her death was a significant lost to the community.

As for my immediate family, it was a sad time for us because unlike other occasions, we were returning to Morristown to attend Grandmother’s funeral. A somber mood traveled with us from Georgia to Tennessee. My brother, sister and I slept most of the way except for the rest stops along the way. As I slept I dreamed of being in Tennessee again. It was my trip to Mecca, the holiest place on earth.

As we ascended the steep drive up Branner Street, looking through the front window from the back seat of my parent’s car, it seemed as if the road led straight up to heaven. All I could see was a cloudless clear blue sky. I always sat anxious and silent until we neared the crest of the hill. As usual, I was boiling over with excitement. To the left of the car… there it set… Grandmother’s house! It was a light brown brick colonial style house with different dark speckled brown shingles that fit perfectly on the roof. Next to it was my Aunt Irene and Uncle Robert’s house nestled under a dense green canopy of giant maple trees. The tree line casts a shadow of security over the homes. The trees also created a natural boundary that separated my family’s property from the meadow that flowed upwards to the summit of the hill where Morristown College sat as a beacon of hope to the Black community.

The beauty of Morristown College sitting above the house is eternally etched in my heart. It was the one place in my world that true love really existed. Grandmother, Mom, Aunt Iren and Uncle Robert were the guardians of my soul. Whatever I came to believe about the world was based on my experiences in Morristown, Tennessee. Little did I know that my life would forever change after this trip to my family’s homestead.

The smells, sights, and sounds, of Morristown were different this time. As I made my way into the house I ran from room to room looking for Grandmother…but she was not there. Although I had been told that Grandmother had passed I was hoping that somehow I would get a different outcome. I went outside and wandered around until dinner time. As I prepared for bed I realized that Grandmother would not be giving me a hug and a gentle good night kiss. The heaviness of darkness and grief put us to bed without prayer. It seemed as if Grandmothers death changed everything. As a matter of fact everything did change.

Arising the next morning I realized that all that was stable in my life was suddenly unstable. I quickly understood that there would no longer be hot chocolate on the cold winter nights, no more special birthday cards, and no more trips to the garden to pick tomatoes and fresh vegetables. The visits to Grandmother’s house came to an abrupt halt after her death.

With Grandmother’s death, the fabric of our family was torn and for a season we drifted apart. However, I eventually realized that we were not bound by Grandmother, but by the faith that she taught about, which superseded her presence. Faith: The fabric of life, is the inextinguishable hope that emanates from God, who is sovereign, ancient, and relevant.

Grandmother’s departure forced us to depend on God. Mom had to pray more and as a result I learned to pray. I wanted to be like her in so many ways. She was my spiritual mentor and the one person I longed to please no matter what. She was smart, strong and she had influence. She was the pastor of Youngs Temple AME Church at a time when women clergy was not common. As time went on I was determined to please God just as I sought to please Grandmother. After all, my first name and my calling was prophesied by Grandmother even before I was born.

For as long as I can remember I said I would become a preacher. This unique fact made my bond with grandmother even greater. Because of God’s intervening gift of faith I grew in knowledge and wisdom beyond my years. This wisdom caused me to look at life through lens of faith. Hence all of life’s experiences are building block to becoming vessels of God’s glory.

After Grandmother’s funeral, the idyllic lifestyle of my childhood was a thing of the past. Everything changed! My security and comfort gave way to insecurities, disappointments, and emotional pain.

Luke 2:40-52 40And the child grew and became strong; he was filled with wisdom, and the grace of God was on him…. 47Everyone who heard him was amazed at his understanding and his answers. 48When his parents saw him, they were astonished. His mother said to him, “Son, why have you treated us like this? Your father and I have been anxiously searching for you.” 49“Why were you searching for me?” he asked. “Didn’t you know I had to be in my Father’s house?” 50But they did not understand what he was saying to them. 51Then he went down to Nazareth with them and was obedient to them. But his mother treasured all these things in her heart. 52And Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and man.

The Crucible

God is not the author of trials, temptations, and vexations but He uses them to refine His chosen into trophies of His grace.

Henri Whitfield

Blessed is a man who perseveres under trial; for once he has been approved, he will receive the crown of life which the Lord has promised to those who love Him. Jas 1:12.

After my grandmother’s death, my home became a crucible. It was a cul de sac of confusion, emotional pain, and instability. What happiness I hand in the world was often offset by my life at home. Once celebrated as a refuge, the home became somewhat of a dungeon of fear and anxiety. I feared my stepdad to the point of sickness. I was anxious because I never knew what would happen next.

What led to my instability was my mon’s marriage to my stepdad. It started out well but it ended in horror. He was over six feet tall, a dark-skinned black man that had a sideways grin and a style that captured my mom’s attention. His voice was like that of a southern Alabama drill sergeant.  He was ex-military, college-educated, and a well-trained radio and television repair instructor. His pledge to care for my mom and her four children made him a perfect specimen of a man. His credentials were so perfect he seemed to be an answer to our prayers.  As a result, this made it very easy for him to announce that he would be moving us to Savannah, Georgia. We were moving from the serenity of Morristown, Tennessee to the noisy banks of the Savannah River in Savannah, Georgia.  The time leading up to our departure was an exciting and strange time.

The marriage and the move to Savannah shifted us. The transition to Georgia from Tennessee was a mysterious journey, to say the least. The beauty of Morristown and the crisp clean air blew into our faces as we departed and headed to Savannah. We were so excited when, after eight or more hours on the road,  the announcement came that we were in Savannah. Like baby eaglets falling from the safety of a high cliffside nest, we had made the descent into Savannah landing within earshot of the Savannah River. Immediately I noticed that the air was no longer thin and fresh. The smells of wildflowers were absent.  In exchange, the air was thick with humidity. The atmosphere smelled of diesel fuel and decaying fish.  The quiet serenity of Morristown gave way to the sounds of cars, boats, and trucks. Everything was very different but I was content with the changes because I was with my family.

Within a few weeks of our arrival in Savannah, it was time for us to go to school.  My mom had taken us shopping for new clothing, and we were excited about going to school. I would be attending preschool and this would be the first time I spent a significant amount of time around people who were not related to me. In Tennessee, I was cared for by my grandmother, aunts, uncles, or older cousins.  In preparation, the Sunday afternoon before we went to enroll in school, Mom gathered my siblings and me together after dinner, and she explained that we would be attending school. This was great news! What followed was confusing to me. I was only five at the time and my naive understanding of life was challenged.

As my mother spoke to us she began to explain that she was going to be taking us to different schools and there were going to be some name changes. When she spoke of the changes it was not a big deal. I knew that I would no longer be called my nickname but my legal birth name. Then she went on to say that our last names would change due to her marriage to my stepdad. The changes were received without hesitation initially, but I had no idea that there was more to be said. As the discussion continued my mother explained that because my stepdad’s name was different from our original name she had decided to change our names to match his. Somewhere in the conversation, it was made clear that he was not my biological father. He was her husband but not my father. Something about my mother’s explanation that the man I was so excited about calling Daddy was confusing. He was not my Daddy but he was my stepdad. I was so confused that I cried. For the first time in my life, I had a question about my daddy’s identity. I had concluded that my dad had come home when in fact he had been replaced. I left Tennessee with a daddy only to find out that he was a stepdad. This event led to a lifetime of a strained and troubled relationship between my stepdad and me.  My world was confusing and there was nothing I could do about it. The name change was minor in the grand scheme of things, but the most significant thing about that day was that the man I called my “Daddy” was in fact, not my daddy.  Everyone else took it in stride, but I was concerned because if he was not my daddy then who was? Where was he? This was a lingering question that haunted me. To add to my dismay I later learned that when we were given his name, there was no legal adoption, no court paperwork, just an illegal name change.

Over the next few years, my concerns were realized. He began to go through a gradual metamorphosis from a sought-after Daddy to an evil stepdad. What should have been a blanket of security became the foundation of my insecurities in humanity.  As the days turned to weeks and the weeks turned into months and the months turned into years, I realized that my stepdad was a mix between a blessing and something sinister. He seemed to be wholly evil, and he was difficult to love. I never bonded with him. My attempts at bonding with him were horrible fails.  All efforts were met with disillusionment because of his dark, twisted abusive hostility. I was called dumb, drag-ass, sorry-ass punk, and other degrading names. As a result, my siblings adopted many of those names in the absence of my mother.

I learned to compartmentalize my stepdad’s aggression, my mom’s lack of strength, and my siblings’ childish tormenting. I learned early to depend on God for my own personal happiness because, despite my mother’s love for me, I could not rely on her for my total comfort. When she tried to intervene, matters were complicated, and she was often abused for challenging my stepdad. At this point, it was bearable until my grandmother’s death. The funeral is a stored memory that I find difficult to access after all these years. After the funeral, we prepared to return to Savannah.

Why I called home the crucible has everything to do with the darkness that surrounded our “Christian” home. It seems that once my grandmother died my eyes were open. It was as if I had eaten of the forbidden fruit. My eyes were opened to the knowledge of good and evil. My stepdad made me realized the people can be harmful. I never got over his antics because he seemed to time his activity at the time when my mom was most vulnerable.

Immediately after we arrived back in Savannah from my grandmother’s funeral, my mother’s relationship with my stepdad took a turn for the worst. A tense but bearable relationship eventually turned into a tale of victimization. We endured verbal, emotional, and physical abuse. A few weeks later in an unforgettable event, I sat in my bedroom and I heard my step-father’s harsh voice. Alerted by what I perceived as my mother in distress, I cringed as I heard him shout over her crying… “Your mom is dead now so who you gonna run to now?!” Shut up before I throw you and you damn kids out of my house!!!  Those words covered the whimpering cry of my mother as she tried to get out of their bedroom. It seemed as if I was awake all night listening to them struggling about throughout the night.

The days that followed only seemed to get worst. We lived double lives. At church, we were Deacon G’s family and through the week we were the dysfunctional family in Savannah. We lived in an extended trial of faith. We lived in that place that crushed us on a daily basis. We were in an emotional cul de sac with my stepdad guarding the one way in and the one way out. Eventually, I learned to move my emotions aside and ignore his presence.

As time went on he, became indifferent towards me and me towards him. This was noticed by my mother and my siblings, who made light of it at times. Once my relationship with “Daddy” began to spiral downhill my mother spent a lot of time keeping me away from him. I never bonded with him. My attempts at bonding with him were horrible failures.  All efforts were met with disillusionment because of his dark, twisted hostility, and senseless abuse. One memorable event when I was nine years old sums up how I was treated by him.

I always sat to his immediate right at the dinner table. From time to time he would play and hit me jokingly, so I thought. This time he hit me, and I laughed and playfully hit him back. In an unexpected turn of events, with no time for thought or action… all I saw was his big black hand splitting the air towards my face. At that moment, he had backhand slapped me so hard that I fell back from the table with my mouth bleeding. I was embarrassed, hurt, disoriented, and filled with rage and disappointment. As my emotions wrestled within me. He stood towering over me… and in his menacing Bama, drill sergeant, voice, said… “Don’t ever hit me back when I hit you!” As I attempted to crawl from beside the table, my brother and sister sat silently, frozen in fear. “Nate!” My mom screamed… “That was not even necessary.” Unable to collect myself from beside the table my body immediately jerked and heaved, and everyone gasped in disgust as I instantly vomited my meal of rice and gravy, green beans, pieces of chewed beef, bread, and red Kool-aid on him and on my place setting. The fact that I ruined his meal was poetic justice because of his brutal assault on me. As I attempted to make it away from the table, I was aided by my mother who had rushed from the other end of the room and began to help me from the table. My brother and sister thought it was funny after they realized what had happened.  My mom ignored him as he commanded… “leave his sorry ass alone!”

At that moment, I was dizzy and numb. I could not hear anything around me. It was as if he broke something inside of me. What purity was in me… left that day. I had been violated for no real reason. I was shattered with only an inkling of faith. I had been given just enough confidence to exist through my abuse. God began to move on my heart, drawing me closer to Him in my brokenness. My beautiful world had turned to darkness. The Georgia sun shined on our home, and it lit us every corner, but it felt as if it was always pitch dark there.

Our morning optics were different there. Instead of bright sunshine and beautiful colors, we awakened to pale fog-laden mornings with limited visibility. The air was not filled with the sweet aromas of honeysuckles, jasmine, and lilac, instead, we smelled the diesel fuel from the boats, the foul paper pulp from the paper factory, and the fishy stench of the Savannah River. In contrast to the quiet noise of the mountains, we were startled from sleep by the fog horns of the tug boats on the Savannah River. The warmth of the crisp clean mountain air was replaced by the thick humid atmosphere of an industrial port city. I had gone from the lap of comfort and freedom into the confines of a life-altering crucible.


Living in the Crucible

Hope, which is given by God, is often the key that unlocks the hidden potential of every child, and helps them to overcome the atrocities of life. Faith cultivates us in the crucible of pain!

      Fathers do not exasperate your children so that they will not lose heart. (Col 3:21).

For many children, it is challenging to hold things in check when your home is dysfunctional. Some children are pushed into the streets, or they are forced to find alternatives to lives filled with pain. Hence, they become poster children of rebellion. But for faith, I could have very quickly been one of those teens. Hope given by God, is the key that unlocked my hidden potential. It helped me to overcome the cruelties of life. Faith nurtured me through crucibles of pain!

My stepdad was relentless in his verbal and sometimes physical abuse. I felt powerless towards him and he knew it. Consequently, my siblings would also subject me to their outrageous antics modeling his behavior. I accepted things as they were. I was considered a weakling because I never learned to fight back. The reason I never fought back was due to the mental, emotional, and physical abuse I endured.

When I was eleven years of age we returned to Tennessee after my mother and stepdad had a terrible fight. She had been beaten and choked which resulted in us literally running for our lives. We drove all night to get back to Tennessee. If I had it my way, we would have never returned. I was glad to go to school in Morristown and I was happy to have my aunts, uncles, and cousins around.  I had returned to Morristown, my sanctuary of peace in the shadow of Morristown College. The rich legacy of Morristown College[1] established by Dr. Judson Hill and those that followed him defined the school as a significant place in Black American Hictory. My grandmother was extremely proud of the fact that we lived so close to the college. However, due to racism, changing times, and fate the school was leveled in. This was a landmark in my life. What happens when markers move?


However, by the time I went to the eighth grade we returned to Savannah. Things were manageable until the summer following my fifteenth birthday.

       When I was 15 years of age, my mother moved to the other side of town to get away from my stepdad for the second time. The picture-perfect family, which was our public image, was shattered. Mom had decided that she was leaving him. While my mom made plans to separate from him, I was put out of the house after I accidentally broke a fish aquarium.

       The summer was a particular time for me. It was a time of exploration and intrigue. Each day around 3:00 p.m. my friends and I would retire to our respective homes after hanging out during the morning and early afternoon. In anticipation of our parent’s arrival from work. It was customary for our family to be at home during the time leading up to dinner time. Since my mom was a school teacher the summer was a time that I would spend a lot of time helping my mom around the house and tending to my younger sister. It was a relaxed time that always ended abruptly when daddy walked into the house from work.

       On this day he came into the house and in a commanding voice said “Ain’t you got nothing to do?” I nervously quickly replied “No sir. I have already done all of my chores.” He commanded me at once to go and clean the fish tank. This was a task that took time and patience. For the next hour, I would have to carefully place the fish in a bowl that was the same temperature as the tank. Next, I would remove all the aquatic plants and put them in a separate container. Finally, the most tedious task was to dip most of the water out of the tank into a bucket, carry it into the bathroom and then take the fish tank into the bathroom and strain the blue-green lava rocks into a bucket with a strainer in it and clean fish excrement and excess food from between the stones.

“Buddy! Put that damn bucket down and carry that tank in the bathroom. Your sorry ass will be here all day dipping that water out of that tank.” Because his command was laden with insults and cussing I immediately sat the bucket down and picked up the 20-gallon fish tank that was not completely emptied and heavy. I very carefully strained and carried the tank into the bathroom to drain the water into the bathtub. “And clean that damn tub out when you finish!” He yelled as I struggled into the bathroom with the tank.

        I made it safely to the tub, I regrouped and began to tilt it forward to empty its content into the bucket with the strainer in it so that the rocks would not go down the drain. However, to my dismay, the water-logged rocks shifted forward causing me to drop the fish tank into the tub. “Whew, it did not shatter,” I thought to myself. However, to my utter disappointment, the bottom of the tank had a crack that was the length of the aquarium. After I collected myself, I cringed as I turned around and my step-dad was standing in the bathroom door.

            He screamed, “Did you throw that aquarium in that tub?!” I said no sir, and before I could explain what happened, he commanded… “Get your sorry ass out of my house!” I went out to the carport not fully understanding what he meant. I was 15 years old, and I had nowhere to go, so I assumed that he was just angry. He followed me out to the carport and bellowed. “I said get out of my house… You got mad because I told you to clean that fish tank and you took it in there and busted it up. Get out! Since you hate me so much get out!”

        Those words burned into my head and heart. I was afraid, angry, disappointed, and confused. With the clothes on my back, covered with water from the fish tank I went out the carport door and onto the street. I was about to cry, but my friends came and begin to ask what was wrong. I said nothing because I was embarrassed about being put out of the house. The first few hours I hung out with my friends, and as night fell, I went to my older brother’s house. My oldest brother had recently moved back into the neighborhood after going to the military, and he allowed me to come in and use the phone to call my mom.

            After talking with my brother, I was told that I was to stay there until further notice. The next day when Daddy went to work my mom delivered some clothing to me. Since I was not in school for the summer and I did not have a job I mainly stayed at my brother’s house for the remainder of the summer.

            God kept me through the crucible of the hell hole that was my home. My father was overtly cruel, and my mother was powerless against him. My favorite childhood song was a song we sang at church every Sunday morning, “What a friend we have in Jesus, all our sins and grief to bear, What a privilege to carry everything to God in prayer.”[1] Although it appears that I was in pain my entire childhood it should be understood that my Daddy and mom’s actions were typical for me.  As a result, I was not sad, feeling as if I was singled out and mistreated, I was actually a friendly and somewhat happy teen who was everybody’s Buddy. My nickname was Buddy because I was kind to everyone I met… including daddy.

       God had already anticipated this because my brother had just moved back into our community and my mother had a contract on a new house that she was awaiting the final approval on. When I was pushed out onto the street, my mother began to execute her plan. She contacted my older brother and made arrangements for me to stay with him until we moved. During that time we visited on a regular basis, and it was during this time that we began our weekly prayer time together. Within a few weeks, my mother called all of us together and announced that we were moving to the other side of town. None of us questioned her move we just loaded up the cars and a borrowed truck, got our things and moved to the other side in the city. 

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